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If there is a user (or a bot) that signed up at your site this user can start to send messages to every other user. 
I had some negative experiences with this and so I wrote a module that should help to block such a spam.
Buddypress Messages Spam Blocker introduces some restrictions to your users:
<ul>
<li>New users can send messages only 24h after their registration, so you’ll have time if bot registrations have to be removed manually (modify this value using filter ‘buddypress_messages_spamblocker_newMembersWaitingPeriod’)</li>
</ul>
Their are also some more restrictions for mass mailings (mails that are sent to “friends” of the contact list are not included in this calculation):
<ul>
<li>Users can send 6 messages maximum in 5 minutes (modify this value using filter ‘buddypress_messages_spamblocker_5m’)</li>
<li>Users can send 10 messages maximum in 10 minutes (modify this value using filter ‘buddypress_messages_spamblocker_10m’)</li>
<li>Users can send 20 messages maximum in 30 minutes (modify this value using filter ‘buddypress_messages_spamblocker_30m’)</li>
<li>Users can send 30 messages maximum in 60 minutes (modify this value using filter ‘buddypress_messages_spamblocker_60m’)</li>
<li>Users can send 35 messages maximum in 12 hours (modify this value using filter ‘buddypress_messages_spamblocker_12h’)</li>
<li>Users can send 45 messages maximum in 24 hours (modify this value using filter ‘buddypress_messages_spamblocker_24h’)</li>
<li>Users can send 50 messages maximum in 48 hours (modify this value using filter ‘buddypress_messages_spamblocker_48h’)</li>
</ul>
Users with the capability “edit_users” (admins etc.) have no restrictions for outgoing messages
Install, activate, and it will work.
More about me and my plugins
Since the year 1999 I do administration, customizing and programming for several forums, communities and social networks. In the year 2013 I switched from another PHP framework to WordPress. 
Because not all plugins I’d like to have exist already I wrote some own plugins and I think I’ll continue to do so.
If you have the scope at forums or social networks my other modules might also be interesting for you. <a href="https://wordpress.org/plugins/search.php?q=quan_flo" title="ifs-net / quan_flo WordPress Plugins" rel="ugc">Just take a look at my WordPress Profile to see all my Plugins.</a> Use them and if my work helps you to save time, earn money or just makes you happy feel free to donate – Thanks. The donation link can be found at the right sidebar next to this text.

Buddypress Messages Spam Blocker

This plugin will block mass mailing for the buddypress messaging system

wordplus

<a href="https://wordpress.org/plugins/bp-better-messages/" rel="ugc">Better Messages</a> integration with <a href="https://www.wordplus.org/wcfm" rel="nofollow ugc">WCFM</a> plugin.
Allows connect sellers and buyers using private messaging system.
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Better Messages – WCFM Integration

Better Messages integration with WCFM plugin.

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